“Trying”–then waiting. (part II)

June 30, 2007

This post was so long, I had to split it in half! Here’s part two.

“Try” to get pregnant? Isn’t this like “trying” to gain weight? Sure, a hyperthin celebrity actress might try to get fatter for a plum, Oscar-worthy role, or a pathetically skinny teenage boy might try to bulk up with protein shakes and raw egg smoothies, but for the rest of the human race, gaining weight is hardly something to be pursued. No, it’s something mildly inconvenient that happens naturally when you stop paying attention (and p.s., only white folks really seem to pay attention, as “everyone knows” a black man can appreciate a woman with some meat on her bones).

So with getting knocked up, or so I figured. Pregnancy was one birth control slip away, assuming you were using birth control at all beyond the withdrawal method (and again, white women seemed to be the main ones taking drastically responsible measures like getting on hormonal birth control; always a regular condom user, I went on the Pill for the first time in my life at age 30, and only so I wouldn’t be bleeding on our honeymoon). Imagine my surprise when pregnancy didn’t automatically follow our first month of unprotected sex. The betrayal! As it turns out, a healthy woman my age, with a healthy partner, has only a one-in-five chance of getting pregnant in any given cycle. I wish gaining weight were that tricky.

So, anyway. Still waiting. There should be some news either way by July 10. If that seems like a long time to you, imagine how I feel.


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